I've been digging around on this topic for a while hoping to find something related but so far I have not been able to spot a thing, then I came across this article.
http://magmapoetry.com/archive/magma-37-2/articles/the-female-poet-and-the-male-muse/
Seems that I am not the only person who wanders the realms of the internet looking for clues of this kind of existance.
I like the way she discusses the works of Sylvia Plath,Anne Sexton and Dorothy Parker. Not describing them as eloquent act of poetry but instead as a kind of strip tease. This made me wonder for a whle whether this was the way it would always me. Men remaining eternally the hunter the dominator. While women sat passively by and tried to ensare and capture the attention of her prey without really seeming to.
I have talked to men about desire and they all maintain that they are strongly drawn by female desire. In a small coffee shop in a bustling train station, I listened fascinated as my friend told me about a woman who called him up and asked him if he would like her for lunch. Men who say women like them too much or slept with them too early are merely shifting the blame of their promiscious behior from themselves onto another person.
Yet I watch as many gay men flit effortlessly from one night stand to one night stand, all the while only forming meaning relationships with people they have taken time and effort to know.
Is this because sex can be seperated from affection or is this because there are so many men in the world who take sex as a fom of relief the natural progression from attraction?
Are they even related?
Clare Pollard wrote another book called "The Heavy Petting Zoo" which she wrote in her teens. i have not read it yet but reviews describe it as edgy ,vunerable and raw. Is this what female sexuality is? Does the truth of sexuality differ from gender to gender? Only realising itself wehn one agrees to play by the rules of the other?
Are women compelled by any other reason that societal pressure to make sure all sexual contact leads to a long term relationship? Women may have had the burden to uphold the moral fabric of society while men are free to drink, make mistakes and carry on badly. I dislike it but I wish there was someone making an effort to keep society on the straight and narrow but I'd like to see some shared responsibility.
I hate that female sexuality is tied to morals forever limited to what society deems acceptable while male sexuality is allowed even encouraged to explore and developed. it seems that even in the furthest depths of debauchery women are still objectifed and seen as little more than an exquisite plaything to be tested and pushed and explored then rejected when there is little or nothing left to see, do or say.
